Mentoring Purpose and Pitfalls
of the LifeWork Systems version of mentoring:
- Development with emotional intelligence – self / social awareness, AND self / social management
- Expressing appreciation and recognition to each person being mentored
- Brief review of purpose (group and individual).
- Supporting task ownership. Tasks that each person owns include:
- Relationships – Do I have 10’s with people (not necessarily best friends but rather no troubling challenges or unresolved issues)? Do I make this top priority and foundational?
- Productivity – Am I feeling and being competent, excellent and efficient in getting things done?
- Engagement – Am I fully engaged, bringing my A-game? Excited about my job?
- Blueprint – including next steps on purpose, values, visions, goals, procedures or roles
- Tools – Use and mastery in applying them
Note: All employees at every level receive mentoring each month, no exceptions.
8 Pitfalls to Avoid During Mentoring
- Stories or advice: Allowing or encouraging the one being coached to share stories and engage in conversation (LifeWork Systems coaching is not talk therapy, venting, or advisement). Use time out motion
- Poor questions: Do not focus on why and who questions which are less helpful than what and how questions – good questions are “what is your plan?” “What are some tools you could apply?” “How will you accomplish this?” “What’s next?”
- Veering off course: This happens because the person being coached thinks a thought about something else and diverts you from the question asked (likely unconsciously)
- Winging it: When coaches do not use templates (they think it’s better to “wing it” or to add their own needs/wants to the session that has nothing to do with task ownership as defined above)
- Ignoring avoidance: listen for victim/blaming language or behaving; not answering questions as asked
- Other agenda: Mentor interjects own agenda (focusing there instead of fully focused on person coached)
- Poor time management: Coach does not manage the 30m schedule in a time-efficient manner
- Saying too much: (including advising and counseling) instead ask questions (Socratic) that lead the person to self and social awareness AND implementations related to their discoveries